What does your way of being say about your self-esteem

Did you know that the way you answer a question about yourself can say a lot about your self-esteem?

In my coaching career I have met many clients who seemed confident at first. But that was just a mask they used for everyone else, for outsiders.

Do you know how I figured that out?

They avoided answering my questions directly. They explained too much about their actions or even themselves.

You may think my role as a coach is to listen. And your role as the person benefiting from the coaching session is to tell me everything that is going on in your life. This is only half true.

These clients I'm telling you about didn't just tell me about their lives today. They were telling me about other people's lives. About their past lives. So, naturally, I stopped them. My role is to guide you into the future, not to find out all about your past.

When this happens it means that the person sitting in front of me is hiding from the truth, avoiding the answer and avoiding themselves.

Giving an immense amount of detail when responding to me, their coach, shows their true colours.

Many of my clients seem very confident on the outside. But when they feel comfortable enough to open up in our coaching sessions I allow myself to discover that they actually lack self-esteem. They think they are not worthy of their lives, that they don't deserve the good things that happen to them. They think they are just playing a role and that they are actually not as good as people think they are. So they decide to avoid confronting themselves. Maybe out of fear, maybe because they're not ready.

You deserve to be free of this burden. You can enjoy life and improve your self-esteem. How? Through coaching!

I look forward working with you!